letting go

As we’ve arrived at a new year, and for many, a proposed “fresh start” (new year, new me, right?), I felt it was only apropos to share a post on how to truly move on. I’m writing this for anyone who has something they want to move forward from, whether it be a relationship (friendship or romantic), a bad job, or just a bad mental place they want to shake themselves out of.

The problem in this day and age is that letting go and moving on from anything isn’t as hard and fast as it used to be. Things don’t just disappear when they no longer serve you, but instead relocate to the recently deleted folder, to the archives, or to the stranger side of a friend request. No, moving forward from something takes a little more now. I decided to reiterate the mindset I talked about here, which I used to get over my loss from my break-in earlier this year, and hope these tips are helpful in general for growing forward/upward/outward.

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Tips for moving forward:

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Setting December Intentions

If you haven’t been following for long you might not know this, but I used to have a feature called Monday Mantra where I would set my intentions for the upcoming week ahead. I decided I want to revisit this, but instead go bigger and set goals and just share my general thoughts on the upcoming month ahead. We can all look back together at the end of the month in a recap later, as well!

1 | Go to Paris with an open mind and experience my first solo trip fully. To some my upcoming trip might not be a big deal, but this is the first time I’ll have not only traveled on a trip solo, but done so internationally! I hope that I can rise to the challenge of any sort of fear or apprehension I may experience in the next week, and allow myself to enjoy this new experience wholly.

2 | Continue to create tangible art at least once a week. Creating things to share with you guys has helped me immensely in finding my way back to my artistic roots, and I hope to keep hold of that kite tail. Seriously, have you seen the DIY posts lately? I want to keep making things that I can be proud of, so that you can make things you can be proud of!

3 | Be better with my time. I think this is something I’ve included in every goal list I’ve ever made, but damn if I don’t actually want to be better with my time. After leaving one of my jobs I now have so much extra time in my schedule that I know I’m not using properly or to the best of my ability. I don’t want to get too deep on ya here, but I think I’ve been going through this phase lately where I’m more “aware of my mortality” and just how much of a waste it is to do nothing with the limited amount of time we have.

4 | Keep putting out an image that is true to myself. I plan to make a post that expands on this further because I think it’s something that is warranted, but I’ve noticed lately that social media has become so overly curated that there’s almost no point. I get that no one wants to be caught looking ugly for the whole world to see on a format that could potentially last till the end of time (not to scare you, but the internet will definitely outlive us), but damn if people are just completely losing their personalities in an attempt to look perfect. Every post is for a LIKEtoKNOW.it share or some ad promotion, and that’s not how I want to live. I’m a real person and I want to connect that underlying realness to your underlying realness, and I hope I continue to maintain that view no matter where blogging takes me.

What are your goals and intentions for December?

monday mantra

“Monday Mantra” is a weekly feature, where I share an affirmation or quote that resonates with me that I’d like to try following for the upcoming week. Essentially, I’d like to start the week with positive intent, as an effort to keep those good vibes flowing through the week! You can look at past Monday Mantra posts here, and if you’re not sure what affirmations are, I talk about them here.

 

Probably a week or so ago I started reading a book entitled You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero, after randomly picking a book off the bestseller shelf at Barnes & Noble during a particularly mental-hangry moment (you know the kind, when you just feel like absorbing all the info possible around you). I’m definitely going to do a review, because so far the book is just eye opening. Guys, if you’re out and you see this book, just flip through the first few pages and then try to not buy it. I bet you will. Or you won’t, out of spite (shame on you).

I’m not sure if it’s this rad book making me re-think my life, or just how I’ve felt refreshed after my little jaunt last week, but I really want to take a look at how I react to situations and overall just try to have a more positive attitude. For that reason, I’ve chosen this mantra for this coming week:

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More and more lately I’m realizing that there is no point in holding on to something that annoys, upsets, or just overall doesn’t benefit you positively, both in a physical as well as a mental sense. I’m also realizing, that in most cases, happiness is a choice.

Yes, we’re all going to find ourselves in situations that might not be the most favorable or with the most favorable people, but have you ever found that holding on to being annoyed or angry has actually helped you? As a server I often find myself dealing with people who are just downright rotten for the sake of being rotten, but letting them get to me is silly! By adjusting my perception and being able to see that the attitude issues are really something deeper with the customer (or maybe it’s not; maybe it’s a bad day) and not a problem of mine, it’s easier to not let them affect me.

I also think that how I react and interpret a situation speaks volumes about me, and if I find that something upsets me or makes me jealous, maybe I need to look further. Why am I seeing such-and-such this way? What’s causing this reaction from me? Once I can diagnose that, I should be able to let it go and move forward! No one wants to dwell in their unhappiness, right? At least I don’t!

 

What about you?
What’s your focus this week?

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monday mantra

“Monday Mantra” is a weekly feature, where I share an affirmation or quote that resonates with me that I’d like to try following for the upcoming week. Essentially, I’d like to start the week with positive intent, as an effort to keep those good vibes flowing through the week! You can look at past Monday Mantra posts here, and if you’re not sure what affirmations are, I talk about them here!

 

Do you ever have those days where you lose track of time and spend hours doing something, but at the end of the day realize you have nothing to show for it? Where you swear you’ve been busting your butt being busy, but in actuality you’ve just been wasting your time? Basically, one of those days where you somehow got lost in a rabbit hole of social media? Yea, me either (not).

I actually had a whole different Monday Mantra post intended, but ended up somehow wasting away 6 hours and fell asleep before I could actually put my thoughts down, leading me to choose this new mantra for the week:
monday mantra

This coming week I’d really like to focus on managing my time better. If you know me in person, I’m very rarely on time. To anything. I’m not quite sure how I always get caught up in new little projects right as I should be walking out the door, but I do (seriously, almost every time I actually have to be somewhere).

I also need to really take a page from my first mantra and be better with my technology usage, so that I’m able to focus on more important things, like accomplishing the tasks I have at hand! There’s only so many hours, and while it’s okay to give myself a break here and there to relax, there’s no point in just mindlessly wasting away hours where I could be accomplishing something! I’m going to try my best to prioritize and plan out my day so I’m appropriately using time, and maybe even set alarms not just for waking up, but also for when I truly need to leave the house.

What about you?
What are you going to focus on this week?

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monday mantra

“Monday Mantra” is a weekly feature, where I share an affirmation or quote that resonates with me that I’d like to try following for the upcoming week. Essentially, I’d like to start the week with positive intent, as an effort to keep those good vibes flowing through the week! You can look at past Monday Mantra posts here, and if you’re not sure what affirmations are, I talk about them here.

 

Yesterday was my birthday (wooo 27!). I had planned an important post talking about growth that I wanted to set the tone for the year (rather than week) in relation to starting a “fresh” and “new” me, but for some reason I just couldn’t find the proper words; every quote just seemed wrong, and nothing responded with me emotionally. I wanted to talk about how some people don’t grow, only age, and how I felt like I was at a good place with myself, but there was just nothing there when I put fingers to keyboard. I even tried my usual go-to: pen to paper! Nada.

I got myself so stressed out that I actually had a full on meltdown. Not even a whole day into being 27 years old and I was ready to lay down on the floor, write the year off, and skip ahead to 28. I don’t like missing posts, but after staying up late (like, late late) and still not finding the words, I decided to sleep on it. I figured the right mantra to set the tone for my next year would come to me, I just had to chill out and take a step back. Then this morning, it did.

Here’s what I chose for 27:

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I realized I needed to just let go of this stress I put on myself, because I was the only one who could do that. I actually sent myself spiraling into a panic, over what, a BLOG post?! It’s okay to just take a step back sometimes and say to yourself, “maybe this isn’t what I expected, but it is what it is,” and then release yourself from the tension. Like I talk about here, holding onto that stress and upset will only affect you negatively, and if you can’t change the situation, why worry?

I’m at that age where a lot of my peers are finding their footing with adulthood, and it’s just so easy to compare notes, so I find this mantra particularly relative to that aspect as well. There should be no expectation to where you are in life, as everyone’s path takes different twists. What good does it do you to peek over at your neighbor except to congratulate them?? None!

I definitely hope to carry this throughout this week, and on through 27. Life is easier when you let go and don’t set crazy expectations for yourself, instead going with the flow!

 

 

What about you?
What affirmations are you going to focus on this week?

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