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We’re already ankle deep in our new year, new me lifestyles, and I wanna talk about how I said yes, to a more positive mindset. Near the end of the year I started reflecting a lot on both the people around me, and myself. It seemed that the combination of holiday stress and mercury “being in retrograde”, brought out a lot of negative vibes–and while rehashing the past year, everyone was hyper focusing on the crappy parts. It started to make me wonder:
Why do we hold on to the things that negatively impact us?
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I’ve been working hard at working hard this past month, but I’ve definitely noticed it seems rougher than usual (for some of my friends in particular) to press forward, despite that “new year, fresh start” vibes we’re all riding high on. Whether it’s the unpredictable temperatures, or just an overall January characteristic to kind of drag, I’m not into it. The last week or so, I’ve found myself really reaching for those strong mantras to build myself up mentally, and I figured it couldn’t hurt to do a round-up of my current faves to help y’all out too.
You may have seen a few of these on my instagram stories if you follow me, but they still hold solid, so here they are! This first quote in particular is probably what I’m going to try to embody for the entirety of 2018, because it just feels so strong. Let me know in the comments below if any of these resonated with you!! View Post
I’ve had this post in my queue for a minute now, because I noticed a handful of bloggers writing similar ones, and figured I should shelf it. But ya know what? If something is “trending”, there tends to be a reason. In my opinion, we’re hearing about the “Law of Attraction” from all angles because: it works.
But what exactly is the Law of Attraction?
I talk a little bit about the idea behind it here, but essentially by focusing on the positive or negative thoughts a person is having, they can manifest into real life experiences. Basically: your thoughts become your reality. If you’re repeating something to yourself, that phrase will create imagery in your mind, which will affect you subconsciously, in turn influencing your behavior, then actions, and overall habits. Like energy attracts like energy.
Although I was already utilizing affirmations in my daily life, it’s only recently that I’ve fully started to employ the Law of Attraction. It’s kind of amazing when you approach life with a positive mindset, just how much starts to align (and in a short time)!
I’ve noticed lately that a lot of people seem to be struggling with feeling burnt out in their day to day life. In a society that takes a bit of twisted pride in never calling out of work it’s frankly not surprising that people are getting to this point.
While I get that being overworked is partially a financial decision for many (and therefore largely a necessity), social media is definitely a huge contributor as well. The first thing we do when waking, and the last thing we do before sleeping, is scroll through our phones to observe others. This is creating a subconscious tally board against carefully curated highlight reels of all the things we aren’t accomplishing, even though we’re striving for something that isn’t obtainable because it’s not real.
As we’ve arrived at a new year, and for many, a proposed “fresh start” (new year, new me, right?), I felt it was only apropos to share a post on how to truly move on. I’m writing this for anyone who has something they want to move forward from, whether it be a relationship (friendship or romantic), a bad job, or just a bad mental place they want to shake themselves out of.
The problem in this day and age is that letting go and moving on from anything isn’t as hard and fast as it used to be. Things don’t just disappear when they no longer serve you, but instead relocate to the recently deleted folder, to the archives, or to the stranger side of a friend request. No, moving forward from something takes a little more now. I decided to reiterate the mindset I talked about here, which I used to get over my loss from my break-in earlier this year, and hope these tips are helpful in general for growing forward/upward/outward.
Tips for moving forward:
Setting December Intentions
If you haven’t been following for long you might not know this, but I used to have a feature called Monday Mantra where I would set my intentions for the upcoming week ahead. I decided I want to revisit this, but instead go bigger and set goals and just share my general thoughts on the upcoming month ahead. We can all look back together at the end of the month in a recap later, as well!
1 | Go to Paris with an open mind and experience my first solo trip fully. To some my upcoming trip might not be a big deal, but this is the first time I’ll have not only traveled on a trip solo, but done so internationally! I hope that I can rise to the challenge of any sort of fear or apprehension I may experience in the next week, and allow myself to enjoy this new experience wholly.
2 | Continue to create tangible art at least once a week. Creating things to share with you guys has helped me immensely in finding my way back to my artistic roots, and I hope to keep hold of that kite tail. Seriously, have you seen the DIY posts lately? I want to keep making things that I can be proud of, so that you can make things you can be proud of!
3 | Be better with my time. I think this is something I’ve included in every goal list I’ve ever made, but damn if I don’t actually want to be better with my time. After leaving one of my jobs I now have so much extra time in my schedule that I know I’m not using properly or to the best of my ability. I don’t want to get too deep on ya here, but I think I’ve been going through this phase lately where I’m more “aware of my mortality” and just how much of a waste it is to do nothing with the limited amount of time we have.
4 | Keep putting out an image that is true to myself. I plan to make a post that expands on this further because I think it’s something that is warranted, but I’ve noticed lately that social media has become so overly curated that there’s almost no point. I get that no one wants to be caught looking ugly for the whole world to see on a format that could potentially last till the end of time (not to scare you, but the internet will definitely outlive us), but damn if people are just completely losing their personalities in an attempt to look perfect. Every post is for a LIKEtoKNOW.it share or some ad promotion, and that’s not how I want to live. I’m a real person and I want to connect that underlying realness to your underlying realness, and I hope I continue to maintain that view no matter where blogging takes me.
What are your goals and intentions for December?
“Monday Mantra” is a weekly feature, where I share an affirmation or quote that resonates with me that I’d like to try following for the upcoming week. Essentially, I’d like to start the week with positive intent, as an effort to keep those good vibes flowing through the week! You can look at past Monday Mantra posts here, and if you’re not sure what affirmations are, I talk about them here.
Probably a week or so ago I started reading a book entitled You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero, after randomly picking a book off the bestseller shelf at Barnes & Noble during a particularly mental-hangry moment (you know the kind, when you just feel like absorbing all the info possible around you). I’m definitely going to do a review, because so far the book is just eye opening. Guys, if you’re out and you see this book, just flip through the first few pages and then try to not buy it. I bet you will. Or you won’t, out of spite (shame on you).
I’m not sure if it’s this rad book making me re-think my life, or just how I’ve felt refreshed after my little jaunt last week, but I really want to take a look at how I react to situations and overall just try to have a more positive attitude. For that reason, I’ve chosen this mantra for this coming week:
“Monday Mantra” is a weekly feature, where I share an affirmation or quote that resonates with me that I’d like to try following for the upcoming week. Essentially, I’d like to start the week with positive intent, as an effort to keep those good vibes flowing through the week! You can look at past Monday Mantra posts here, and if you’re not sure what affirmations are, I talk about them here!
Do you ever have those days where you lose track of time and spend hours doing something, but at the end of the day realize you have nothing to show for it? Where you swear you’ve been busting your butt being busy, but in actuality you’ve just been wasting your time? Basically, one of those days where you somehow got lost in a rabbit hole of social media? Yea, me either (not).
I actually had a whole different Monday Mantra post intended, but ended up somehow wasting away 6 hours and fell asleep before I could actually put my thoughts down, leading me to choose this new mantra for the week: