diary: no junk attitudes

I’ve noticed in a lot of the communities I’m a part of that there’s a pretty negative trend going on lately, and I want to talk about it. Frankly, it’s probably been going on for years all over, but I never paid attention because I was actually involved in the negativity. I think the only reason I’ve started to catch on is that the positive mindset I’ve been working hard to manifest doesn’t leave a lot of room (or tolerance) for junk attitudes.

And by junk attitudes, I mean, people delighting in tearing each other down.[clickToTweet tweet=”The positive mindset I’ve been working hard to manifest doesn’t leave a lot of room for junk.” quote=”The positive mindset I’ve been working hard to manifest doesn’t leave a lot of room for junk.”]

If you’re in any sort of facebook (or otherwise) community, especially ones meant for people in the creative field, y’all know exactly what I’m referring to: the people sharing screenshots with the intent of mocking others as a hive, like the blogging “newbie” asking a “dumb question”, or the girl next door who decided she wanted to try her hand at photography instead of dropping a couple hundred on a session.

Rather than be worried about someone invading your niche, or being a detriment to the money you might make, we need to start taking this negativity as a learning experience and reflect. Do I need to evolve? Learn how to use social media better? Network to my ideal client properly? Stop putting negativity into a space where positive action can fit.

(Heck, don’t think if you’re not a “creative” I’m not talking to you. How many screenshots do you have saved in your phone right now because you wanted to poke fun? Yea, y’all know what I’m talking about.)

You will never regret putting effort into your own craft.

For a moment, think about how much time you’ve cumulatively wasted on negatively mocking or worrying about someone else. Now, imagine if you’d instead devoted all that time on yourself instead. Would you be pushing expert level at your current skills by now? Maybe not, but I bet you’d be way better than you currently are. Seriously, iis impossible for something to grow if it isn’t watered.

I touch on this at the end of my last post (in section 7), but people are so dang focused on others, that they lose themselves. Stay in your own lane, water your own garden, and eventually you’ll start propelling yourself forward in so much success you won’t have time to bring others down.

[clickToTweet tweet=”It is impossible for something to grow if it isn’t watered.” quote=”It is impossible for something to grow if it isn’t watered.”]

[clickToTweet tweet=”You will never regret putting effort into your own craft.” quote=”You will never regret putting effort into your own craft.”]

(see related post: 7 tips for utilizing the Law of Attraction)

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I’m going to make a point to curb my negativity.
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  1. Shruthi August 30, 2017 / 12:12 pm

    You know, I’ve noticed this too. It used to be rude to be negative, but now it seems like the trend! Thank you for sharing. Positivity is severely underrated <3

    -Shruthi. thehonestshruth.com

  2. Alyssa August 30, 2017 / 2:05 pm

    I’ve noticed this a lot on FB groups and have actually removed myself from a few. We def need more positivity.

    – Alyssa alyandco.com

    • thegoldsister@gmail.com
      September 1, 2017 / 12:04 pm

      same, I had to leave or unfollow a lot of groups because I just couldn’t get down with the negativity.

  3. Kasey Marie August 30, 2017 / 2:12 pm

    I love this so much, especially the quotes for Tweets. <3

  4. Elizabeth (@oakandoats) August 30, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    I was thinking about this with Taylor Swift’s new song. While I love Taylor and the music video was very creative, I don’t like how negative it was. Shake it off says the same thing but in a fun way. Anyways, loved this post!

  5. Shai August 30, 2017 / 8:40 pm

    It’s really sad that this goes on and it shouldn’t. We are all here to reach the same goal so why not support each other?! Glad you’ve decided to make a change for yourself! Sending positive vibes your way!

  6. Andrea August 30, 2017 / 8:57 pm

    This post is so inspiring! Loved your “it is impossible for something to grow if it isn’t watered” quote! Focusing on your own craft is way better use of time and energy than focusing on a bad situation or worse, on someone else. Loved this! Thank you for such inspiring words!

  7. Growing up zee August 30, 2017 / 9:08 pm

    People throw rocks at things that shine! Love this post and your outfit is fab!

  8. Jill Hamilton McMeans August 31, 2017 / 7:36 am

    Love this post!! Thanks for sharing. Positivity is definitely so underrated. Thx for such inspiring words! XO

  9. whatrivawore August 31, 2017 / 10:05 am

    I have been blogging for a year now and a day never goes by where I don’t have a question or learn something new. It is sad that people are insecure enough to mock people. Thanks for your positive message, we need more people like you around in the blogging world!

    Riva | http://www.whatrivawore.com

  10. ChrystinaNoel August 31, 2017 / 10:06 am


    Yeah, this has always bothered me. Not even just on the internet, I’ve been involved on project teams at work that when they all go out to dinner at the end of the night they’ll make fun of the others. It took me a while to realize that I could just physically remove myself from those situations, which was nice. But you’re right, it’s started happening on the internet more. Thanks for the positivity!

  11. lovelyluckylife August 31, 2017 / 10:40 am

    Great post! I’m always trying to focus on making myself better versus worrying about what everyone else is doing. Thanks for the reminder!

  12. Jo September 3, 2017 / 7:16 pm

    Thank you for addressing this and cultivating a more positive atmosphere!

  13. katsomething September 7, 2017 / 9:52 pm

    I totally know what you mean by this negativity. It’s a shame that we all feel like we need to be up against each other instead of helping one another out. I’ll catch myself feeling this way sometimes out of seeing it constantly happening and I’ll have to snap myself out of it. Great insight!

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