I think it’s a very human thing to get in our own way. The idea of attempting something and failing seems to be scarier than never attempting at all. As a result, we often stay stagnant and in one place, rather than venturing out. This is true in all figurative and literal aspects, but I find it particularly true for traveling. Strength exists in numbers, and unless going somewhere with family, most will never try to explore alone. Change that!
So many are scared to venture solo because it means they might have to rely on themselves, and aren’t sure they’re capable. I promise you, you are. You’re strong enough and more than able to handle anything that life gives you (seriously, like, forreal).
Are you scared?? Then start small! Are you able to go shopping alone? Can you go to the grocery store solo? Okay, now go further. Take a whole day with just yourself for company. Go spend time out exploring the woods; look up the local train schedule and just ride it to a random town. Not only will you get to know yourself better by spending time with the most important person in your life (hi, that’s you!), it’ll get easier and easier to go further and travel more!
One of my favorite things about spending time by myself is that I really, truly have gotten to know myself better. As someone who loves spending most of my time by myself, I think you can literally feel your independence growing when you’re doing things solo.
“But I can’t afford to travel.”
That’s a lie. You just don’t know how to save to travel. There’s this misconception that it costs a lot of money to take a trip somewhere, and that’s really just not true anymore. The prices of flights are going down more and more every day (check here for more deals!), and with places like Airbnb existing, there’s no reason to splurge a lot on a place to stay!
You just need to make saving to travel (or anything that is important to you) a priority. Once you do that, you’ll start to find ways you can save money. Maybe cut back on after dinner drinks a few times a week, maybe make your food at home instead of ordering out, maybe skip buying your winter wardrobe and just layer up instead. Whatever you do, make sure you stick with it!!
My trick for saving has been to have money automatically transfer to my savings account once a week. Something like $20 a week is totally doable, considering how much we blow on things like Uber on the regular without even realize! One less Starbucks trip equals $5 more saved! And you don’t have to be aggressive and cut out all fun splurges (I could never give up my random shopping trips because TREAT YO SELF), just cut back!
Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s no shame in wanting to take a trip with someone else! If you’d rather go with your sister/brother/mom/boyfriend then by all means! Just don’t let yourself make excuses as to why you can’t get out there, and stop waiting on other people to go. You wanna up and see more of your state? Go. You wanna fly across your country? Go. The only one holding you back is you!!
PS. Is anyone gonna be in Paris the second week of December?? Because ya girl booked a solo trip to go explore after I got tired of waiting for others to come with me. Comment below if you have any fave places for me to check out!