diary: letting go and moving on.

letting go

As we’ve arrived at a new year, and for many, a proposed “fresh start” (new year, new me, right?), I felt it was only apropos to share a post on how to truly move on. I’m writing this for anyone who has something they want to move forward from, whether it be a relationship (friendship or romantic), a bad job, or just a bad mental place they want to shake themselves out of.

The problem in this day and age is that letting go and moving on from anything isn’t as hard and fast as it used to be. Things don’t just disappear when they no longer serve you, but instead relocate to the recently deleted folder, to the archives, or to the stranger side of a friend request. No, moving forward from something takes a little more now. I decided to reiterate the mindset I talked about here, which I used to get over my loss from my break-in earlier this year, and hope these tips are helpful in general for growing forward/upward/outward.

letting go

Tips for moving forward:

1. LET YOURSELF FEEL YOUR EMOTIONS: It’s not until you truly allow yourself to become engulfed in something and get to know it by letting it seep into who you are that you’ll be able to break the negative bonds being held, and instead allow yourself to become empowered. So cry, scream, reminisce, or whatever you need to do to familiarize yourself.

2. BE KIND TO YOURSELF: Pamper yourself. Take a mental sick day, or maybe even a week. Come straight home from work and chill in bed with a new Netflix series and some pizza. Treat yourself to a home spa. Whatever it is you decide to do, just move forward with kindness toward yourself. [clickToTweet tweet=”5 tips for moving on and letting go.” quote=”5 tips for moving on and letting go.”]

3. REMOVE WHAT DOESN’T SERVE YOU: It is so ridiculously tempting to continue to pursue the things that affect us negatively because the thought of being without can be scary. What we often forget though, is that there’s definitely something better for us out there, something that will fit into our lives better. Why would you torture yourself with that crappy job, when moving forward could push you into an even better one?!

4. STEP AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA: I think this could be a sub-category under number 3, but, stop creeping on social media. Anyone who knows me in person will laugh that I’m suggesting this, because I’m that person who can and will find something if it exists online; I mean it though! Sometimes you won’t like what you find if you’re looking around on the internet, so just back away from it. It’s probably better to make it a habit of going on social media less anyway, ya know?

5. GIVE YOURSELF A LIMIT: Whether it be a day, a week, or a month; give yourself some time to work through things, but then move forward. It’s important to learn that there’s a difference between getting to know your emotions and just stewing in them. The latter is toxic, and will only create something negative and dark where you want to manifest healing and lightness. Take a break, then onward and upward!

I recently watched Eat, Pray, Love again while I was in Paris, and the main character’s dialogue in a scene about letting go really struck a cord and I think kind of expresses what I’m looking to share:

– “But I love him.”
“So love him.”
– “But I miss him.”
“So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, then drop it. You’re just afraid to let go of the last bits…because then you’ll be really alone…”

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Now meditate on 2016, and release that sucker into the unknown with all the love and light you can muster.

Here’s to a new year guys!!


    • thegoldsister@gmail.com
      January 4, 2017 / 1:40 am

      Watching it while in Paris just made me want to book a flight from there to Bali or Italy, ha! x

  1. AJ January 1, 2017 / 9:57 pm

    The best movie for this topic. Thanks for your refreshing perspective. I love goal setting in the new year and these are great tips. It is difficult to let go as we become complacent but finding joy is way more beneficial to the soul.

    • thegoldsister@gmail.com
      January 4, 2017 / 1:50 am

      I’m glad you enjoyed it! I found last year that this method really helped me to move on from crappy situations much easier. x

    • thegoldsister@gmail.com
      January 7, 2017 / 2:37 pm

      it so is! things really just don’t disappear from our lives like they used to, and we have to be stronger for that! x

  2. Krista Dial January 2, 2017 / 11:47 am

    Couldn’t agree more with you, Kate. 🙂 Sometimes it can be so difficult to let go of those things that have made such an impact on our life…but to move forward and live forward you just have to let go knowing it’s for the best…looking forward to visiting your blog again soon in the new year.

    • thegoldsister@gmail.com
      January 7, 2017 / 2:38 pm

      it can be so hard to move on, but knowing in your heart that there are better situations definitely can make things easier! and looking forward to having you again! <3 x

  3. Kirstie January 2, 2017 / 12:01 pm

    Haha, love the ending sentence! I’m working on letting go of a mental situation, and these tips are fantastic. I’m looking forward to applying them and moving into this year more free and with new intentions. Thank you!

    • thegoldsister@gmail.com
      January 7, 2017 / 2:38 pm

      I hope this post helps you out in moving forward Kristie! xx

  4. Kimberly January 13, 2017 / 6:37 pm

    Oh my goodness … this post totally spoke to me! Thank you so much for sharing it … Happy New Year to you!

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